When I was making up my list of Highlights of 2009 at the end of last year, one of my runner-up items was that none of my friends or family had died all year. The death of Gerry Reid on March 1st changed all that, of course. While I didn’t specifically blog about the healthy year, I did allude to it by calling it dull.

Saturday morning, Kelly and I put the kids in the able hands of good friends and rushed out the door to the service at Asbury United Methodist Church. The stated attire was casual, befitting Gerry, so with my jacket and collared shirt I wore socks and sandals. Kelly had socks and sandals with her but opted not to wear them with her dress. We grabbed lunch at the nearby Harris Teeter and ate it in the church parking lot while we watched other guests make their way into the church. Once our lunch was done we also made our way into the church, joining the parade of friends who knew Gerry. There were plenty of socks and sandals present as well as hockey jerseys, kilts, and other Gerry-style attire.
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It was a weekend of highs and lows. Friday night I drove over to help set up the facility for Gerry’s post-service party. Arriving after the work was done (though right when I said I would arrive), instead I joined Jeff, Suzie, Bill, and Janet for a beer and a bite to eat. We had a conversation both deep and hilariously funny.

Saturday morning we were scheduled to go to Hallie’s soccer game but it had gotten rained out. Instead we got the kids ready for their sleepover at their friends’ house and got ourselves ready for Gerry’s funeral. We got the kids out the door and then ourselves, arriving at the church around 12:25. I’ve got a separate post coming up on Gerry’s service, but suffice it to say it was far harder for me than I expected.

We went to a post-service party for Gerry and had a great time. Then we went to yet another party after that one. It was good meeting friends of Gerry’s from various points in his past.

This morning Kelly and I slept in somewhat later, which wasn’t really by design as Daylight Saving Time took effect today. We picked up the kids from their sleepover, ate lunch (BBQ!), and headed out for a two-hour family bike ride on the greenway. It was awesome! When we returned, we figured out that we’d ridden 14 miles. And the kids had no complaints at all! I so love riding with the family and look forward to many more rides like today’s.

Now it’s time for a shower and then bed. My busy week of meetings is this week so my posting this week will be sporadic.

I was at work when Kelly called me at 10 AM. Gerry’s status hadn’t improved and had actually worsened overnight. He was no longer breathing on his own and there was absolutely no sign of brain activity. The family was talking of making final preparations, Kelly said, and if I wanted a chance to say goodbye while he was still being kept alive I needed to go immediately. I dashed off a note to my manager before rushing out the door, frantically calling up Jeff and Scott as I went.

Unlike my Monday afternoon trip to Duke Hospital, when I got lost driving around Durham, this time I took the Durham Freeway straight there. I walked up to the hallway outside his ICU to find some of his friends already there, many of them already in tears.
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Gerry died this afternoon before 3 PM. More when I get a chance to catch my breath. It’s been a long day.

Gerry’s “Beer Night” drinking buddies, Jeff, Scott, and myself, decided to get together last night for beers and to talk about Gerry. His good friends Bill Ramsay and Janet Mobley joined us at the North Hills Fox and Hound. We were only together for less than two hours but there was a lot of laughter and stories shared.

It was the best therapy I could’ve asked for during this difficult time. Gerry had a knack for collected some pretty cool friends.