The last days of the Southern drawl

Around Raleigh I hear fewer and fewer Southern accents and I think it’s sad. I can still muster up mine but it seems to only come out when I’m around other Southerners. The ratio of Southerners in Raleigh seems to be dropping by the day.

On Sundays after church, my family would pile into our crank-window GMC truck and head to Kentucky Fried Chicken. “Can I get me some of them tater wedges?” my father would say into the speaker, while my sisters and I giggled in the back seat. My dad has always had a southern accent: His words fall out of his mouth the way molasses would sound if it could speak, thick and slow. But his “KFC voice,” as my sisters and I call it, is country. It’s watered-down on work calls and during debates with his West Coast relatives. But it comes out around fellow cattle farmers and old friends from Kentucky, where he grew up.

My mother’s accent isn’t quite as strong. She’s a therapist, and she can hide it when she speaks with her patients and calls in prescriptions. But you can always hear it in her church-pew greetings, and when she says goodnight: “See you in the a.m., Lawd willin’.”

I was always clear on one fact: I wasn’t going to have a southern accent when I grew up. I was raised in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, near Nashville, where the accents grow stronger with each mile you travel from the city. I watched people snicker at the redneck characters on television who always seemed to play the town idiot. I knew what the accent was supposed to convey: sweet but simpleminded. When I was 15 and my family went to New York for the first time, the bellhop at our hotel laughed when my mom and I spoke; he said he’d never met cowgirls before. That was when I decided: No one was going to know I was from the South from my voice alone.

Source: The last days of the Southern drawl

The last days of the Southern drawl

Around Raleigh I hear fewer and fewer Southern accents and I think it’s sad. I can still muster up mine but it seems to only come out when I’m around other Southerners. The ratio of Southerners in Raleigh seems to be dropping by the day.

On Sundays after church, my family would pile into our crank-window GMC truck and head to Kentucky Fried Chicken. “Can I get me some of them tater wedges?” my father would say into the speaker, while my sisters and I giggled in the back seat. My dad has always had a southern accent: His words fall out of his mouth the way molasses would sound if it could speak, thick and slow. But his “KFC voice,” as my sisters and I call it, is country. It’s watered-down on work calls and during debates with his West Coast relatives. But it comes out around fellow cattle farmers and old friends from Kentucky, where he grew up.

My mother’s accent isn’t quite as strong. She’s a therapist, and she can hide it when she speaks with her patients and calls in prescriptions. But you can always hear it in her church-pew greetings, and when she says goodnight: “See you in the a.m., Lawd willin’.”

I was always clear on one fact: I wasn’t going to have a southern accent when I grew up. I was raised in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, near Nashville, where the accents grow stronger with each mile you travel from the city. I watched people snicker at the redneck characters on television who always seemed to play the town idiot. I knew what the accent was supposed to convey: sweet but simpleminded. When I was 15 and my family went to New York for the first time, the bellhop at our hotel laughed when my mom and I spoke; he said he’d never met cowgirls before. That was when I decided: No one was going to know I was from the South from my voice alone.

Source: The last days of the Southern drawl

A look back at 2025, part 1

I see I have a blog here and think it might be fun to add something to it every now and then.

The page has now turned on 2025 and many are saying “good riddance!” This year, I don’t know if I share that sentiment. Sure, a lot of undesired stuff happened but there are some moments that deserve to be celebrated.

Twenty-twenty five was the year I threw caution to the wind and went on a grand adventure by sailing to Cuba. It’s notable that I did it without Kelly, with whom I travel nearly everywhere. It was a Guy Trip, organized my friend Ken Thomas and a small circle of his friends. None of us knew anything about Cuba and only I had any real sailing experience. The great thing is that it didn’t matter as we were all willing to dive into the unknown and trust that we would figure things out. And we did, beautifully. It was a huge confidence-builder to take a leap and learn that I have the skills to succeed. More blog posts on this to come.

Politically, America’s rot is now out in the open for all to see. Congress has abdicated its role as a check on the executive, with the Supreme Court siding with the billionaire class nearly every time. There is naked corruption everywhere. The government services we all need to keep a functioning society have been deliberately thrown into chaos. Republicans are doing their damnmedest to codify racism. All in all, things look pretty bleak.

But do they? People everywhere are finally waking up. Democrats are winning landslide elections in formerly Republican-safe districts. The President’s approval rating is far underwater. Yes, lawless thugs are running roughshod over Constitutional protections in our immigrant neighborhoods, but the people are having none of it and fighting back. Folks are getting organized, fast! While it would be nice if our institutions would stand up for everyone, it is heartening to see so many people willing to step up to fill the gaps. The American experiment is not quite dead yet.

Along these lines, I attended a few very large demonstrations in 2025 that really hit home. Never before have I felt so emotional at a protest than I did this past year. It gives me so much hope. So, though the oligarch-controlled media does its best to keep it hidden, there is significant pushback against the folks trying to shred our Constitution.

ICE raids Hyundai plant in Georgia

Trump is doing his damnedest to destroy our economy.

South Korea says ‘many’ of its nationals were detained in immigration raid on Hyundai facility in Georgia

The South Korean government said Friday it had expressed “regret” to the U.S. Embassy over the raid at a battery plant under construction at one of the state’s largest manufacturing facilities.

South Korea said Friday that it had expressed “concern and regret” to the U.S. Embassy over an immigration raid on a Hyundai facility in Georgia during which it said “many” South Korean nationals had been detained.

“The economic activities of our companies investing in the U.S. and the rights and interests of our nationals must not be unfairly violated,” said Lee Jae-woong, a spokesperson for the foreign ministry of the key U.S. ally, according to the Yonhap news agency.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/ice-hyundai-plant-georgia-enforcement-action-rcna229148

I am a drummer

The winter before last, I bought an electronic drum kit from Facebook Marketplace. Seemed like a deal and I’d always wanted to learn, so why not? I drove a few hours to the seller’s home somewhere south of Charlotte and hauled it back home.

It sat in our playroom for a little while until I got over my intimidation. Then, like with everything else I want to learn nowadays, I fired up YouTube and watched my first drum tutorial video. After a day or two of practicing, I was able to do a basic pattern!

Once I had that down, I was constantly feeding myself new material to master. I would fire up Spotify in my headphones and drum along with whatever song struck my fancy. Soon I was doing more complicated music. Eventually, I progressed to watching videos that included drum tablature, getting to the point where I could read music and nearly play at full speed. Suddenly I was somewhat useful behind the kit.

Fast forward to today. My band DNR’s drummer, John Palmer, sometimes can’t make practice due to prior commitments. The rest of the band could either waste time, noodle around, play to a drum track, or bag the practice altogether. I have been stepping up in practice to take over drumming with the aim to keep a steady beat. I’m still new and not nearly as fancy as I want to be, but often I can get the job done. It does drive me to want to get better, especially since I know the caliber of musicians my bandmates are and that they deserve an equally talented drummer. I’m not quite there yet but I definitely get charged up about playing with a real band. John’s position is secure, let me just say!

While I still get self-conscious about missing a beat or not adding the right fill, I can appreciate how far I’ve come in the short time I’ve been a drummer. Drums to me are a welcome break from work. I will leave my home office for the playroom, sit down, and play to a song.

A little bit here and there can get you far, before you know it.

Umstead hike

The weather this past week has been phenomenal; a real taste of fall with highs in the low 80s, lows in the mid-50s, and very low humidity. Kelly and I had been itching to get outside and enjoy it, so today we packed up the dogs and spent a few hours hiking around Umstead Park. We didn’t have real plans once we got there and just began hiking one of the loops, which turned out to be Sycamore Loop and took us almost 7.5 miles. It was just as pleasant in the woods as we’d hoped, so our hike was mostly enjoyed by all.

One of our hounds, though, seemed to run out of steam after about five miles, so the last bit of our hike became more of a drag. It did go to show us that we really need to do more hikes like this.

RSS update update

So far the RSS reader reboot is working well. I feel like I have more control over the media I get and the stories I read. I especially like rediscovering the blogs of friends whom I haven’t interacted with in a while. On Facebook, I long ago noticed that the service simply didn’t share updates from certain friends in my feed, even though those friends were posting regularly. It became obvious that my “friendships” there were being manipulated. This for me was the downfall of Facebook’s usefulness: when it began to heavily throttle the user to user interaction in favor of stuffing my feeds with unwanted “follow” posts and of course ads. I can still get a taste of that user-to-user by switching to looking at the Friends feed directly but any trust I once had in Facebook is long, long gone.

Hope you’re enjoying the updates here.

A grind

Gotta be up front with y’all. What’s going on is a grind. Yep, a real grind. A flood of colossally bad moves, blatant racial profiling, skirting and breaking the law. It is maddening. It is infuriating. It is depressing. Every morning I pop open my phone to learn about the latest disaster.

But you know what? This chaos is not going to last. It will end, these crooks will be reigned in and brought to court, and our country will begin the long and substantial work to rebuild our nation, alliances, and reputation. I try to focus on this future rather than the mess we are currently in.

The headlines, blogs, and social media posts are right to tell us what’s happening, and it’s important to know what’s happening but it’s often not the whole story. What gets our attention now is the stories that are flashy or angering or infuriating but the stuff that doesn’t make headlines is the fact that the current regime is striking out almost universally in court.

Judges are holding officials’ feet to the fire. Grand juries are refusing to play along with the administration’s bullshit charges. The idiots are getting called out and quietly retreating on many fronts.

As long as this administration keeps being frustrated in its quest for legitimacy there is hope. We just gotta keep grinding.

Donald Trump and Robert F. Kennedy Junior to Ban Covid-19 Vaccine ‘Within Months’

My local VA can’t find the COVID vaccine. To my surprise, neither can CVS. Or at least it doesn’t currently have any.

Now the rumor is that RFK, Jr. plans to ban the COVID vaccine within months.

I hate this timeline.

The Trump administration will move to pull the COVID vaccine off the U.S. market “within months,” one of Robert F. Kennedy Jr.’s closest associates has told the Daily Beast.

Dr. Aseem Malhotra, a British cardiologist who has repeatedly claimed in the face of scientific consensus that the vaccines are more dangerous than the virus, told the Daily Beast that Kennedy’s stance is shared by “influential” members of President Donald Trump’s family. Like Kennedy himself, no Trumps hold any scientific qualifications.Malhotra is a leading adviser to the controversial lobby group Make America Healthy Again (MAHA) Action, which is seen as an external arm of Kennedy’s agenda as Health and Human Services (HHS) Secretary.

He told the Beast that many of those closest to RFK Jr. have told him they “cannot understand” why the vaccine continues to be prescribed, and that a decision to remove the vaccine from the U.S. market pending further research will come “within months,” even if it is likely to cause “fear of chaos” and bring with it major legal ramifications.

Source: Donald Trump and Robert F. Kennedy Junior to Ban Covid-19 Vaccine ‘Within Months’

Thirty years with a web presence

My blogging mentor, Wil Wheaton, noted his 24 years of blogging today so naturally I had to check where I stand on these metrics.

It’s been 23 years since I began actual blogging (or as I called it back then “web logging”), using a dynamic, database-backed site rather than static pages. Here’s my first post. I looked for the prior software I’d been using, “bpblog,” but it seems it has completely vanished from the Internet. Which might be a good thing, actually.

More interestingly, last month marked THIRTY YEARS of a web presence! That would be the “Flea Forum” hosted on the servers of a long-gone local Triangle web hosting and internet company, Cybernetics. Check out this mirror in all of its 1995 glorious, hand-crafted HTML glory.

I kept a digital journal even before this though as far as I know I never posted it online. I recall posting an excerpt or two here on MT.Net. But private journaling doesn’t count.

I’m still committed to growing my blog reading and writing as nearly every commercial online media company does more pissing me off than entertaining me lately. Either its incessant ads, shadowbanning, patently stupid fake AI photos and videos or the million other ways they annoy me. It’s time to get back to real, y’all.

That doesn’t mean I’m going to be a keyboard warrior from now on. I dabbled with video posts earlier and I would like to bring this back. I will probably write what I want to say, read it on camera, and post both. If you have the ability to post video why not do it, right?

Thanks for sticking around. I hope our conversation can continue.